You can’t do it

Of course you can’t. Of COURSE you can’t!!!

Did someone tell you that you would be able to jump in and jump on and stand up on your first try?!

Who told you that lie?

I’ll be the first to tell you it’s a lie.

You need to WORK to thrive

You need to FAIL to vibe

You need to learn to stand before you can walk

You need to balance before you can glide

It’s not going to be easy. You have to build up your muscles. God gave us muscles so we could use them. So we could work them. So we could feel the soreness when we try new things. So we could stretch and grow and get up and tone and KNOW that we’re alive.

You can’t do it. Imagine if that’s all someone said to you when you were first starting out. Would it fan your flame to press on or would it justify quitting? I think it has to do with the will, the why. The motive behind doing something in the first place.

I remember driving down the highway on Route 64 and having somewhat of a vision. A bottle of shampoo fell into my lap. It fell from the sky… from heaven. It fell from God. God dropped that bottle of shampoo right into my lap. It seemed to fit in perfectly well. It seemed to fit my personality. “You can sell anything” people have always told me. It’s vegan and chemical-free; good for my body. I believe in it. I use it and love it. It has made my hair healthy. I feel good knowing that it makes me healthy.

When you’re passionate about something and love something, you light a fire underneath other people too. Passion and love are contagious. Love is the one thing that never dies. Because God is love, and God is steadfast and unchanging. And He alone stands the test of time.

But we live in a broken world. And things get difficult. Trials pop up. Hardships come around. Things can start to seem bleak or like they are never going to change. Sometimes the hardship can distract us from why we started in the first place.

Does a pregnant mother give up growing her baby because it’s too hard? God forbid.
Does a pro basketball player walk off the court mid-game because he’s having a bad night?
Does a gardener destroy his bed of flowers because he’s sick and tired of weeds popping up every day?

The answer to all three is, of course, “no”.

Because with perseverance and hard work, there eventually comes a turning point.

You try one more time… and you are able to get up. You find the sweet spot and are able to balance. You find your center of gravity and have built up your muscles enough to maintain your position.

“I’m going to have this baby if it’s the last thing I do” says the mother.
“I’m going to give every shot and pass my all before this game is over” says the b-ball player.
“I’m going to weed day after day to enSURE that my plants aren’t choked out” says the gardener.

And at that point, you’re DOING it. You’re thriving. The work is getting done.

At what point are you at? Feeling like quitting or absolutely committing?

I want to cheer you on. Keep showing up. The hardship is normal. The hardship is expected. The hardship will get you to your goal. And later down the road, I’ll be able to  say this to you:

“Aren’t you glad you didn’t quit? Aren’t you glad you kept persevering?”

BE glad you didn’t quit.
BE glad you kept persevering! Everyone on the sidelines is! Whether they know it or not. Some expected you to give up and fail. Don’t humor them. Some expected you to excel, because they believed in you. Do you believe that you’ll get there? Believe it. Get back up. Try again. Show up again. Build up your muscles. Expect to fall. Expect to fail. Expect that it’ll take hundreds of times, maybe thousands, before you’re an expert.

Experts aren’t born, they’re made. They’re created through trial after trial after trial. Loss after loss after gain after loss. It can seem futile. We’ve all been there. Press on.

You can’t do it”. You’re right. Maybe not right away or right at first. But that’s unrealistic. Was anything worth doing ever easy?

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Training

Good morning.

This morning is going to be about business, and how to succeed in your personal business. We’re going to first look at and listen to some birds in nature, who will teach us. ๐Ÿ™‚

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It’s Saturday morning and the sky is blue with a few fluffy, white clouds and I hear a bird twittering softly. A second bird just responded. A third bird said something in the background. And a fourth. Actually, the more I listen, the more I realize how many birds are out there talking. Singing. Exclaiming. Proclaiming. The more I tune my ears to what’s going on in the trees, the more I become aware of the life being lived. The population. The existence.

And as I tune my ears in to the birds, I become curious about what they look like. So I move to the window and see the birds with my eyes. It’s one thing to hear them, but it’s another to see them.

Upon the first glance, I don’t see any sign of a bird. I move closer to the window and sit down. I’m scanning from a second-story window and the sun is shining in my direction. The sunlight reflects on the glass pane and hinders my sight. Oh, but how I hear them. I know they’re there.

I open the window.

Wow. The sounds were pretty and intricate and lovely before; but how much more vibrant and glorious they are without a double-paned glass window between us.

Still no birds in sight. I become aware of my residual congestion from the head cold I’ve had the last three days. Plus, a lack of caffeination. This is a word I made up. You may use it ๐Ÿ˜‰ More hindrances to my senses.

Aha! My first bird. A blue jay. I can tell by the whiteness in the tail.

Number two just flew by. Couldn’t tell what he or she was. A small/medium brown bird.

If only I could take the screen out too. I would be able to spot the birds so much more easily.

There must be eight or ten different bird sounds that I’m hearing.

A man coughs across the courtyard. A strange bird, for sure. ๐Ÿ˜›

A beautiful bird flies by just a few feet below my window carrying a twig in her beak. She descends to the ground to collect another one. She must be building something.

OKAY.

Let’s make this about being successful in business.

Step 1. Go to where the people are.ย 

I want you to think of the birds we’ve been talking about as people. People in the world that exist; because we know that they do. They’re out there, singing, talking, shouting, flying by all sorts of places at all sorts of times. They’re building things and working.

It’s much easier to access these folks if you put yourself in proximity to them. What that meant for me and the birds was go to the window.

What that means for people and business is: go to the coffee shops, go to the events, go to the parties. Plan and host the parties. Make the phone calls. Send the messages. Use the social media platforms. Show up. If you don’t show up, your business won’t blow up. I guarantee. If you don’t move yourself to a place where you can better access people, you simply won’t be able to reach people.

Side note, I’m closing the window because my allergies are kicking in. It’s been nice, birdies. ๐Ÿ˜›

Step 2. Remove the obstacles.

When I moved to the window, I was closer to the birds, but I had several hindrances. One was the sunlight coming in through the pane. One was the screen. One was my own congestion and lack of coffee. Most of these obstacles are not impossible to remove.

It’s the same with business. What is hindering you from reaching people more effectively in your business? Most of the time it’s ourselves.ย “I don’tย feel like sending reach-outs today. I don’t feel like posting about business today. I don’t feel like going to this or that event. I don’t feel like taking on rejection. I’m discouraged because my seeds aren’t coming to harvest.”

If any of these sound like you, you are SO in the right place!! It all comes down to removing the obstacles:

Common obstacles that we can remove:

*emotional attachment to the outcome of our reach-out

*expectations of whether or not someone will become a partner, referral or customer

*the me-focused worldview; business shouldn’t be about YOU, it should be about helping others solve a problem/reach a goal ***this one is SO important!!!!!!

*self-doubt and discouragement (I’ll touch on this more shortly)

Step 3. Study your audience.

When I moved closer to the window and camped out for a while, I became aware that there were way more than just one or two birds outside in the trees. There were so many different kinds of birds singing different kinds of songs and performing different tasks.

If I know who’s out there, I can identify their needs. But only if I know who’s out there. Take the time to study who’s out there. Start in your local vicinity, with those close to you. They could literally be right outside your window! Heck, I just got to thinking… I should talk to my neighbors about business! Lol

Everyone is singing a different song. Listen to the tune well so you know who you’re talking to. A cookie-cutter reach-out message is fake. People know when you’re copying and pasting a message to them and everybody else and their brother. When you actually take time to study who you’re reaching out to, you can cater to their actual needs.

Step 4. Know your worth.

If you don’t believe what you have to offer is worth going to the window, you won’t go. If you don’t believe you can enhance others’ lives with your products or services, you won’t take the steps to spread the word. You won’t take the time to study your audience. You won’t even be thinking about your audience at all. At least you shouldn’t be. You should be thinking “what the heck am I doing selling something that I don’t believe in?!”

So STOP. Think of why you’re in your business. Why are you doing it? Are you doing it because you believe that you can help people? That you can change and enhance lives? That you can provide betterment for other people?

Know your worthy. Know your business is worth talking about. It’s worth investing time into. It’s worth telling others about. It’s worth thinking about and pondering and planning for and strategizing.

Now take that knowledge and share it. Share it with the people in your circles. Innermost and outermost. Build a strong customer base and roll with them. Take care of them. Cater to them. LISTEN to them. Hear their needs and deliver them. Change their lives, change their outlook. Change their perspectives.

This is the power that we have in business. This is the power we have as entrepreneurs. We get to change lives.

But we have to be researchers. We have to be observers. We have to sit and wait and watch and listen and hear before we can just jump in.

I feel most loved and care about when someone sees me and knows what I need, and then lovingly communicates that because they care about me. Not when someone word vomits all over me not knowing the place that I come from.

Let’s be loving. Let’s be strategists. Let’s be listeners. Discerners. Go-getters. Passionate. Excited. Let’s be deliverers!!!!!

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V

 

 

Entrepreneur Life

I awoke at 3:00am.

Doesn’t sound too good so far, does it?

Well, I was sick yesterday, you see. A little head cold. I slept a lot. And by 3:00 I was ready to get up.

So get up I did.

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I was thinking yesterday about how I feel like I have dyslexia sometimes. I mean, the above statement was to be funny, but I do order my sentences rather strangely a lot. My syntax is all sorts of jacked up.

But even if I do, so be it. God didn’t make a mistake ๐Ÿ˜›

So back to the entrepreneur life.

I’m in my bed.

Eating bread.

And butterrrrrrrrr

Just finished my coffee

and now am drinking waterrrrr

Lol I think this post is the product of having too much time on my hands.

Not a bad realization for it only being 7:30am! lol

I just praise God that I’m feeling loads better. Head colds are no fun. But I, as usual, am thankful for my cold. It gave me lots of time to think about love and life and choices. I had some good alone time with my Lord. Jesus, that is. Not Netflix or all the other gods people are worshiping these days.

So that entrepreneur thing. I am gonna do some WORK today. Do some reach-outs, some follow-ups. Some self-development. Maintaining the vision is important to stay motivated because nobody is telling me what to do! I look around the office (my bedroom) and wonder why nobody is doing their job. My eyes rest on the only person in the room to call out: it’s me.

“VELVET GET TO WORK!” I say to myself.

“Hey, take it easy on me, I’m new at this”. hahaha

But for real, guys. Self discipline at home is HARD!

I set my deadlines. I set my goals. I do the work.

But it reallyย issssssssss nice to be able to chill at home, do laundry etc., connect with people I haven’t talked to in forever…

I decide when to take breaks. Where I wanna do my work. I might go to the library today. Or to a coffee shop. One thing on my to-do list is to plan another party for the end of this month. Sunday March 29th?

Mmk. I’m going to go for now, and read part of a book on self-development before jumping into IPA’s.

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V

Showing Up

It means SO much to just. Show. Up.

Show up to work.

Show up to a party.

Show up when your friend is feeling down.

Be there.

Be available. Not just physically, but emotionally.

Be consistent.

Show up. It’s hard to show up sometimes.

We don’t alwaysย feel like showing up.

Feelings get in the way of a LOT of things.

That’s why in order to have your own business, you’ve got to be able to push past theย feelings. Because if you don’tย feel like working that day, and your feelings are telling you to stay in bed and don’t pick up your phone, nobody is there to keep you accountable. You aren’t going to get paid.

Not only that, but thoughts of rejection, purposelessness and failure may begin to flood your mind. TBH that probably happens to most of us on a regular basis. But we MUST choose to push past that.

Reaching out to people is a hard task if you are in network marketing. It can be daunting. The possibility of rejection is one out of two. 50%. And the “no”‘s will come. Oh, will they come. This fact makes having a strong mental game all the more important.

It’s all about where you choose to put your focus.

Today, I choose to focus on my blessings and goals: I’ve come a LONG way and still have a long way to go. But it’s the daily choices that we make that our lives consist of. Along the way I choose to remember these things:

  1. It’s a privilege to be able to wake up and work from my house.
  2. Show up daily and success is guaranteed.
  3. Seeds take time to grow; scatter many.
  4. The more rejections, the closer I am to a “yes”.
  5. Trust God and move in faith.

 

So today, I’m going to show up. I’m going to stay positive. I’m going to rise above circumstance and keep my eye on the prize. I’m going to move in faith. Moving is faith in action. It’s time to act.

Do you have a call to action?

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Changes

Exciting changes.

Exciting opportunities!

Wanna be a market partner with me for Monat?? Ask me how and I’ll send you my link!

Network marketing is the way the world is moving… direct sales from the company to YOU… Through someone like me (an influencer!).

I’m super hyped about this experience. There was nothing to lose by signing up. I got a bunch of products that I already love and stand behind 100% and now my job is to tell the world about them so y’all can experience what I’ve been experiencing!

Great hair. Healthy hair. Hair care. The natural root. Vegan. Cruelty-free. Patented. Proven to restore and regenerate hair.

Yuuuuuup.

I’m a little bit scared to have signed up as a market partner, but I have a really good feeling about it.

Have you ever decided to take a leap of faith and sign up for something without knowing what the outcome will be?

Thank you Lord for leading me. Help me to always do things to your glory and for your glory. I love you!

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